I am a big fan of Kate Bowler and her podcast Everything Happens.


This is how she began a recent episode:


“We know instinctively that life is a treadmill. Time is passing. People wanted to hear back to that e-mail. Weren’t you supposed to get groceries? Why aren’t the dishes done? Did you meet that deadline already? And someone in the other room already needs you right now. No. Now. You can hear them calling through the walls. You’re moving faster and faster. Now you’re running. And there is no way to keep up that pace. During this pandemic, our lives have shrunk, our choices and our movements have been dramatically restricted. But the obligations never stopped did they? Everyone needs you all the time. There’s too much to do. It never stops. For all those who are trapped inside a pace they didn’t mean or want to keep, this conversation is for you.”


I heartily recommend listening to the whole episode, here.


She and her guest Shauna Niequist talk about what it feels like to be spread too thin and some ideas about how to take on less rather than more. They suggest rejecting the productivity narrative (the busier and more exhausted we are, the more important and worthy we must be), the recharge your batteries myth (all I need is one good night’s sleep and I can manage all that currently overwhelms me.) Shauna suggests self-care. She says…


“Whenever I talk about self-care, I’m very much not talking about like manicures and massages and, you know, high-end face oil. I’m talking about breathing in between meetings with clients. I’m talking about practicing aggressive, radical self-compassion and sitting outside for four minutes before you have to get on your next call. I’m talking about calling a friend when you know you’re too depleted to speak the truth to yourself and you need somebody to do it for you. When I talk about being present, when I talk about living a different way, when I talk about a simple, simpler, more soulful life, none of this is about fancy stuff or fancy experiences. It’s about honoring your own body and your own spirit enough to nourish and nurture them instead of doing it only for other people or instead of expecting other people to do it for you.”


In what ways are you spread too thin these days? How is God calling you into a more soulful life? What is one thing you can do to nourish and nurture yourself this day? Let us know in the comments below.


-Written by Amy Miracle


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  1. Dan Sharpe September 1, 2020 at 4:58 pm - Reply

    Thank you for the former email based ‘Daily’, and now for this pivot to Blog. I am most grateful for the relevant, real-time, and real-talk ministry from the leaders (and congregation) of BSPC. The digital connection points, shared resources, and the soul searching–yet affirming–theology has been just what my family has needed. I look forward to continuing to consume the digital, as it has become a constant of calm, a constant of Christ, amid the chaos and spreading thin. The reiteration of biblical messages, messages of social justice, and even the above message of self-care are helpful reminders to put into practice.

  2. William Kennedy September 1, 2020 at 6:05 pm - Reply

    Thank you. I need this connection.

  3. Susan Curphey September 2, 2020 at 8:00 am - Reply

    Not long before I read the blog yesterday, I had berated myself for taking a long nap. “Don’t be lazy,” my inner-self said. This blog reminds me (once again) that I need to reprogram my thinking. I’m rather inexperienced in self-compassion but am willing to give it a try! .

  4. Christine Johnson September 2, 2020 at 8:59 am - Reply

    AMEN! How is it possible that in an age of ultra-convenience and mega-ease in almost all things we/I often feel I’m not getting enough done? And that mantra – “Saddle Up! We’re burn’in day lite!” chases me… The feelings I detest most are envy and inadequacy. I never want our young people to feel this – EVER! Are THEY feeling this if we adults are feeling this?

  5. Mark September 2, 2020 at 9:00 am - Reply

    I am always amazed at how at peace I feel during my morning prayers or after my afternoon meditation. Then, five minutes after I’m done, life comes screaming back at me.. Learning to say “no” to some of life’s constant demands is one of the toughest lessons we must learn. I’m in my 60s. I still stink at it. :)

  6. Rosemary September 3, 2020 at 11:15 am - Reply

    I can identify with each of the previous comments. Mostly though, I just want to echo my thanks for BSPC’s Daily, this blog and online worship services. I have been trying to develop a podcast practice while staying at home and I think just listening to Kate Bowler is a form of self-care. (I also recommend Poetry Unbound and the gentle voice of Pádraig Ó Tuama.)

  7. KC Dunstan September 4, 2020 at 3:39 pm - Reply

    It’s funny in a time where so many are working from home and no longer have minutes or hours of their days eaten up by a commute, it still feels like there isn’t enough time to fit everything in. Carving out time to recenter your focus to find what is really important and filter out the noise is key at a time like this. Certainly easier said than done!

  8. Gregory M Conant September 5, 2020 at 11:32 am - Reply

    This definitely speaks to our lives, Rushing to the next meeting or activity. Even today, during the pandemic, when so much is unavailable to us, we are constantly running. It is almost worse because there are less opportunities to step away from work (from home) or chores/projects around the house. I truly need to work on slowing things down and enjoying what i already have here around me: family, nature and spirit of God.

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